01805cam a2200277Ia 4500 ocm50337467 OCoLC ta 020809s2002 nyu b 001 0 eng d 00054182 006095616X 9780060956165 (OCoLC)50337467 BF637.C45 L47 2002 Lerner, Harriet Goldhor. The dance of connection : how to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed, or desperate / Harriet Lerner. 1st Quill ed. New York : Quill, 2002. xiv, 256 p. Includes bibliographical references and index. Acknowledgments -- Prologue : Back to the sandbox -- ch.1. Finding your voice -- ch. 2.Voice lessons from my father -- ch.3. Our first family : where we learned (not) to speak -- ch. 4.Should you share vulnerability? -- ch. 5.In praise of pretending -- ch.6. Putting our parents in the hot seat -- ch. 7.Love can make you stupid -- ch. 8.Marriage : where's your bottom line? -- ch.9. "I can't live with this!" Voicing the ultimate in marriage -- ch.10. Warming things up -- ch. 11.Silent men/angry women -- ch.12. Criticism is hard to take -- ch. 13.An apology? Don't hold your breath -- ch. 14.Complaining and negativity : when you can't listen another minute -- ch. 15.The sounds of silence : finding a voice when you're rejected and cut off -- Epilogue : To thine own self be true -- Notes -- Index. Reveals how to communicate effectively using "voice lessons," enabling readers to convey clearer meanings and strengthen positive emotions and integrity in the face of adversity. Interpersonal communication. Intimacy (Psychology) lcc BK 0 0 0 0 PNLIB PNLIB GEN 2021-06-17 BF637.C45 L47 2002 PNLIB21060862 2021-06-17 2021-06-17 BK 1048 1048