01926cam a2200289Ia 4500001001300000003000600013007000300019008004100022010001700063020001500080020001800095035002000113050002400133100002900157245014900186250001800335260003000353300001600383504005100399505080800450520018301258650003301441650002601474942001201500952010901512999001501621ocm50337467 OCoLCta020809s2002    nyu      b    001 0 eng d  a   00054182   a006095616X  a9780060956165  a(OCoLC)50337467  aBF637.C45bL47 20021 aLerner, Harriet Goldhor.14aThe dance of connection :bhow to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed, or desperate /cHarriet Lerner.  a1st Quill ed.  aNew York :bQuill,c2002.  axiv, 256 p.  aIncludes bibliographical references and index.0 aAcknowledgments -- Prologue : Back to the sandbox -- ch.1. Finding your voice -- ch. 2.Voice lessons from my father -- ch.3. Our first family : where we learned (not) to speak -- ch. 4.Should you share vulnerability? -- ch. 5.In praise of pretending -- ch.6. Putting our parents in the hot seat -- ch. 7.Love can make you stupid -- ch. 8.Marriage : where's your bottom line? -- ch.9. "I can't live with this!" Voicing the ultimate in marriage -- ch.10. Warming things up -- ch. 11.Silent men/angry women --  ch.12. Criticism is hard to take -- ch. 13.An apology? Don't hold your breath -- ch. 14.Complaining and negativity : when you can't listen another minute -- ch. 15.The sounds of silence : finding a voice when you're rejected and cut off -- Epilogue : To thine own self be true -- Notes -- Index.  aReveals how to communicate effectively using "voice lessons," enabling readers to convey clearer meanings and strengthen positive emotions and integrity in the face of adversity. 4aInterpersonal communication. 4aIntimacy (Psychology)  2lcccBK  00104070aPNLIBbPNLIBcGENd2021-06-17oBF637.C45 L47 2002pPNLIB21060862r2021-06-17w2021-06-17yBK  c1048d1048